#112 Marriage Anger and Blame

If you’re constantly facing crises in your marriage, in a vicious cycle of blame followed by anger, and you’re wondering why everything seems to be so challenging. Then this episode is tailor-made for you !

Finding yourself trapped in the cycle of the blame game will leave you wondering why your marriage seems like an endless struggle. 

There is a super simple way to break free from this cycle and pave the path toward a fulfilling, mutually respectful & loving marriage. 

In the Nafs Coaching School, I teach a powerful approach that has helped many people save their marriages and transform their lives.

The best thing is, they love the journey whilst transforming their relationships.

What You’ll Learn in this Podcast:

1. How to banish blame and focus on real solutions.
2. Learn to create Emotional Leadership. 
3. Transforming your marriage with the Science of the Nafs tools based on the Quran and Sunnah.

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You’re going to love it !

A Marriage Built on Unity and Respect

So many marriages go through blame and resentment, and at the core of these challenges is a disconnect between spouses. 

The blame game only worsens the problems because nobody takes ownership of their feelings and their part in it.  

The result of this blame game is a never-ending cycle of finger-pointing where both husband and wife may feel frustrated and unheard.

This is why emotional leadership is so important. You can change this and break the cycle.

Instead of fixating on changing your spouse, it’s time to focus on changing yourself. 

Your emotions and mindset are powerful tools that can influence the trajectory of your marriage. True transformation begins with taking emotional leadership and recognising that your happiness is within your control.

In the Science of the Nafs Psychology, emotional leadership is a cornerstone and fundamental principle. 

Having the tools from the Science of the Nafs means living your life with the most optimum standard. And the uppermost pinnacle in the standard of living is that which Allah guides us to in the Quran and Sunnah. 

You become empowered when you practise emotional leadership. You learn to take charge of your emotions and are able to rise above any external circumstances or triggers. 

Even when your spouse’s behaviour falls short of your expectations, you’re able to control your mind and emotions. You become the captain of the ship, steer your life and marriage where you want it to be. 

Emotional leadership is all about identifying the source of the pain, anguish, and resentment within yourself and actively working to change them. 

With this shift in focus, you’re able to stop reactive behaviours and navigate your relationships from a place of strength and clarity.

Getting yourself out of the blame cycle requires opening your mind to possibilities. Creating a “Possibility Mindset” 

I teach all my students how to think in “possibility mode.”

They recognise that change begins within themselves, and that you can take the steps to reshape your outlook and reactions. The bonus is your relationships and life transform during the process. 

You can solve your marital problems, but you can’t solve them by changing your husband or your wife.

Emotional leadership is key to control.

Even if you’ve tried everything, you certainly haven’t tried the Science of the Nafs, which is Revelation-based. It’s based on the Quran and Sunnah which is certain knowledge and without any doubt. 

It’s the framework to help you harness this power and lead your marriage toward a more fulfilling and loving connection. 

As an individual, you are 50% of your marriage. 

When you take ownership of your 50%, everything starts changing inshAllah.