#084 Get Unstuck and Lead Your Life

Procrastination – Sometimes we procrastinate a lot.

We put things off and we’re not serial procrastinators, or maybe we feel like we are. But what we’re really trying to do is escape something that we’re not enjoying in our lives. 

But by doing that, we get really caught up and stuck in our situations.

THE STUCK CYCLE

Stuck mentally, stuck in our circumstances, and unable to change things.

Next thing we start to overeat, we binge on YouTube, Netflix, and other social media. And if you’re not doing that, then the opposite happens. 

We get so caught up in our work and we get distracted in it to the point that we become stuck in it. 

It sabotages our relationships and our personal lives. And ultimately, it impacts us in our professional lives. 

I get these messages all the time from many of you, where you’re getting stuck in your business.

Because usually, we’re falling in and out of these different scenarios in our lives.

It’s impacting our lives, impacting the state of emotional and mental health, and it ultimately impacts the way you show up in your business or your career.

When that happens, there’s a financial hit.

So if you want to resolve that, then you’re going to love this article.

I’m excited to share this with you because it’s something that’s going to help you tremendously. 

The thing is we’re always getting stuck. 

This happens to everyone. So if you feel like you’re alone in this, know that you’re not.

We all get stuck at some point in our lives.

The quickest and easiest way to get out of it is to tap into something that’s already built in. Something that you’ve already got. 

Most of us are always trying to find something that’s going to help us, just an add-on.

You’re trying to help yourself get to where you want to be. And it’s a strategy or technique or something. 

But I want to take you back to a core fundamental in your life. In your existence. 

On a day-to-day basis, I coach leaders. Now, if you read that and immediately you have the thought, ‘But I’m not a leader.’ 

Just hold that thought for a second. 

If you are a leader, and you’re feeling stuck, then this is going to help you see something that’s already there, and that’s going to help you unlock things. 

EMBRACE THE LEADER IN YOU

You’re the one that’s going to unlock it because you have the power to do that. So whatever your thought is, just understand this.

The Prophet (saw)  told us:

‏ أَلاَ كُلُّكُمْ رَاعٍ

“Each of you is a shepherd”

All of you are leaders, all of you are shepherds, all of you are the people that lead; you’re not sheep. 

I say this to my students all the time. I repeat it over and over again because I want you, the Ummah, to understand.

You as the one reading this, are that leader.

The only way that you can tap into that is to actually recognise that it’s there already. 

Sometimes we don’t feel it because we feel as though we’re making all the wrong decisions.

We don’t feel like we’re living our best life.

We feel like we have all of these plans but no matter what we do, we can’t seem to achieve it. 

“I don’t achieve the results that I want and I keep messing it up.” 

When we get into that place, often there’s loads of reasons why. 

But not knowing or not accepting, or not stepping into your role is one of the biggest problems. 

When we’re told through Revelation that we are leaders, that means we’re not the sheep.

You’re not a sheep. It’s really important to understand that. 

Here’s why we often think we’re sheep. Very often, you’re feeling anxious, worried, and highly stressed.

You don’t want people to find out because you think it makes you look weak. 

We don’t want people to know that we have these feelings.

Especially if in your own life, you’re a leader.

If you start to feel overwhelmed, worried, anxious, and you have a lot of fear about the future or a lot of fear about the past, then you’re going to withdraw and not engage in the world. 

When we do this, we sabotage ourselves. That’s exactly what happens. 

I see this over and over and over again. 

As leaders, we have the anxiety, the stress, the feeling of being overwhelmed, not enough time, productivity issues, or procrastination issues.

We try to make it so good, so perfect, that we don’t make anything.

And even if we do, we’re so dissatisfied with it.  

We beat ourselves up for it. 

NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU 

It’s normal for a leader to experience these feelings.

You don’t need to expose yourself and show the world that’s who you are. But at the same time, you don’t need to hide yourself in shame, because that’s what we do.

When you hide yourself in shame, you can’t address the issue. 

If you can’t address the issue, it’s because you’re burying it, under all your thoughts, and deep down inside of you.

When it’s buried, we don’t resolve it. 

It’s like having a gem but you’ve buried it deep inside of you because you feel there’s something wrong with it.

Maybe it was a little bit misty, but all you needed to do was clean it. 

However, what we do instead is that we bury it so deep that we can’t find it. 

Then we think there’s something wrong with us or something wrong with the world. 

‘Why is this life not turning out the way I want it?’ 

The thing is you can achieve the results you want in your life.

You can get over the anxiety and the stress.

You can stop being overwhelmed, burnt out, and feeling like it’s a never-ending mountain that you have to climb. 

The problem that we have when we bury things inside of us is that we forget who we are. 

But then we’re trying to figure it out by wondering, Who am I? 

The reality is, you are a leader. So how do you do your life, if you’re burying the most important thing about you?

When we do that, we don’t actualise our potential, We don’t create the results that we want in life. 

When that happens, what you really need sometimes is a royal kick up the backside.

And a royal one because you want it to be nice and glorious, not super painful. You just want it to wake you up. 

This is the wake-up call I needed personally.

I needed this and I one of my people gave me a real kick, mentally.

It was just a jolt, a shake, a wake up, and lead. And that’s exactly what I needed.

It was the most powerful thing and I’m hoping that this will be that for you. 

Take this as a boot up the backside, and use it to lead yourself. 

If you’re going through life and you’re trying to create the life that you want, tap into the emotional power you have already.

We don’t want emotional intelligence.

Emotions are not very intelligent, let’s be honest.

We don’t want to be resilient either, because who wants to just be surviving? 

We don’t want to be just getting by.

We want success. We want achievement.

What we want is contentment. All of those things are within your power to attain and live immediately.

You don’t have to wait for the rest of your life or even until the end of your life.

You can have it during your life, every day. But in order to do that, you need to take ownership.

Take charge and leadership of yourself and your life. 

My clients and my students are the most amazing people because they lead themselves. 

As a result of leading themselves, they’re able to lead their families, their communities, their companies, and their teams.

They’re able to lead in the world. 

We can’t do that until we’re willing to lead ourselves. 

So when I’m training my coaches, that’s the very first thing they learn. That they are the leaders and they’re going to lead their lives.

They’re going to lead their people.

They’re going to show them how to live the best life, how to get over their obstacles, how to get over the challenges of their life, and how to grow beyond that. 

When you’re able to do that, then you can love your life. Even if you think it’s a million miles away, or you’re thinking this guy’s talking a good game but it’s not realistic, I want to tell you that realistic is based on your opinion.

And that’s not a very good opinion to have. Thinking that you can’t have a good life. That thought is not going to serve you. 

When the Prophet (saw) tells you that you are that leader, then you have the potential to lead yourself and lead your life. 

Now here’s what leadership is not. 

Leadership is not asserting control over others. 

You don’t need to control people to be a leader. You don’t need to be controlling to lead your life.

What we need is to tap into our own minds and lives and lead that. 

When you do that, all of your people, your family, your kids, your teams, and your business, will follow you.

They’re going to follow you because they love it, not because they’re being forced to do it. But because they love it, they enjoy it, they benefit from it.

That’s who you were created to be. 

Many of my students come in with fear, anxiety, physical symptoms, pain, brain fog, and all of the stuff that we humans experience. 

It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you.

If you’ve experienced all of that stuff, and you experience overwhelm where it breaks you down and you feel it physically, then you’re not the only one.

You can resolve it but you have to take ownership of your mind.

Your mind is the leader of your life. And this is exactly how we resolve it. We use the Science of the Nafs. 

You know this by now if you’ve been reading the blog articles or listening to the podcasts.

And if you’re new to all of this, the Science of the Nafs is a psychology model based on the Quran and Sunnah.

It is a human development science, and it helps you to reach your potential. It is based on Revelation, so you can’t go wrong. 

But if you had it all, but you didn’t believe that it was possible, or you don’t believe that you are that leader, then you’re going to struggle. 

DO YOUR HOMEWORK

Here’s a bit of homework, and the quickest way is just to do this homework today.

My students in the Nafs Coaching School, go through a process of taking ownership of their lives. 

When you become the leader of your life, you can lead your direction in life.

if you feel like you don’t have direction, this is the reason why. If you feel like you’re overwhelmed, and you keep working so hard, but you’re running out of energy. 

This is the reason why.

If you feel like you keep having conflicts with people, and they don’t seem to listen, and they create so many problems for you. 

This is the reason why.

The reason why is simple. You have to step into your God-given ability to lead yourself, not lead others.

Lead yourself.

When you do that, your mental health state changes.Your emotional wealth changes.

Your physical, material wealth, in your business, in your profession, changes. You unlock your potential to create results in your life that you couldn’t do otherwise. 

That’s why I’m selling you on the idea that you are this person. 

If you doubt it, I want you to read this all over again. Do the homework, because the homework is going to help you see what’s really going on and what the next steps are.

It’s super simple. 

I want you to be able to use this to take yourself to the next step. So do the following.

Number one >> Grab a pen and paper and make a note of this.

What were you thinking, as you were reading this? What was going through your mind? 

Number two >> What do you potentially see in your thinking as an obstacle to you becoming that leader? 

Number three >> What needs to happen to make your life happen the way you want it?

Number four >> Make a decision on stepping into your life. And leading yourself. Do this and spend a bit of time on it. And you’re going to discover a bunch of stuff that you didn’t know before this. It’s there, it’s all in your mind.

Just focus on this and really spend some time thinking about it. 

But the most important thing is you can do this. You were created for it. You can create the results you want.

You can have the most amazing emotional wealth, and resistance, and power.

Understand that you can create the life that you want. 

But you’ve got to lead it. You’re the one that’s in the leadership position. You’re the one in the driver’s seat.

If you do this, you’re going to find that your life changes exponentially. And the stuff that I’m teaching you here is going to help you to unlock it.