#056 When you want to Give Up

If you’ve ever found yourself on the edge or on the brink of quitting, wanting to give up on your dreams, your goals due to your struggles and obstacles, then this episode is for you. 

What You’ll Learn in this Podcast:

1. Overcoming the pain of failure.
2. Belief and possibility.
3. Challenging failure with fun. 

Mentioned on the Podcast: (Click on Links)

• Nafs Coaching School
• Mind Health & Relationship training (Free Training & Newsletter)

Failing All the Way to Winning

“How to Fail to Win” is discussed in this episode. 

Whenever we face challenges or setbacks, it’s easy to believe we’ve failed and should give up. 

It’s like exams. But after the exams, life just carries on. Life doesn’t stop. 

The exams are just a part of the journey. 

Failing is not the result because life is not a series of tests where failing means the end of the road.

I understand theologically, this is what we’re taught but we shouldn’t apply this principle to everything in our day-to-day life.

Failing is just an obstacle en route to the results. If you keep going, you’re going to get the results, despite what you call a failure. 

When we tell ourselves that we can’t possibly succeed or that we can’t overcome a challenge, we create emotional pain and then we feel like we’re at a dead-end. 

However, this is a self-imposed limitation. 

No one fails if they’re willing to believe. It’s your willingness to believe that makes it possible. 

Believing in the possibility of success is the key to overcoming any obstacle. 

Very often, that feeling of failure comes from not getting results instantly. 

It’s that microwave lifestyle. If you can’t get it instantly, you want to quit.

On the other hand, striving to do things perfectly can also lead to quitting if things are not “perfect”.

It’s essential to keep things simple by emptying your mind of these nonsense thoughts and focusing on believing in the possibility of success.

Failure is a part of the journey. You’ve got to fail to win.

This is what I teach in the Science of the Nafs. 

The obstacle is the fear of failing, but sometimes you’ve got to expect that. 

You can’t expect to go through life without having any failures. It’s a part of the journey. 

The important thing is you don’t have to be perfect. Choose fun, choose enjoyment, and choose to be okay. 

One of my coaches experienced this very thing. She was coaching a group of people and it was a significant event.

Now, she was getting a little stressed about having an impact on their lives. 

That’s the best thing about this profession. We do it because we want to help and impact the world, to change lives, so that Allah (swt) will be pleased with how we spend our time.

I said to her, “Listen, you need to have fun. Choose to have fun in that process. And it will change your whole experience and change the experience of everyone there. 

Everyone will love it.” 

And guess what? Everyone loved it. She’s amazing and she delivered an amazing experience.

Everyone loved it. They all had fun. 

So, it’s okay to be human.

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